Friday, 22 June 2018

"What doooo you do all day?!?"

Dear Everyone,

How y'all doing?

No, better question...what y'all doing?

For some reason, it does bug people here that they don't know what I do all day. Because, a woman who ain't married don't have nothing to do.

One gal even get upset and ask me in a' almost angry tone, "What doooo you do all day?!?"

Y'know...women here only live to take care of man and children.

"Is only you one, what you got to do so whole day?"

I does want to say, "Well, I does pick me toenails, scrub me heels, I cook and eat whole day."

The 'cook and eat' part they wouldn't believe though, cos I small.

For some reason, if I say I taking care of me health, it does bug people. Like, that is a selfish thing, taking care of y' supposed to be checking up on them, calling them, visiting.

The truth is exactly this though...I been taking care of me...that is, me health.

I learn a good-good lesson these past months after I get sick, asthma, the works.

The whole time while I been sick, I only do the basics.  And I fall into the social media hole, scanning this, scanning that, watching other people play, create, talk, laugh......

Then I realise, Eh-eh, this ain't good at all, at all.

I pick up meself, dust off, and make a list. As some of we here say, Dheeray-dheeray...bit by bit...I start to feel better.

And it dawn on me again that what me best friend in the Whole Wide World say is true. Health should be a priority.

Now, I editing with me heart and soul, walking, observing...

...I gone to buy yoghurt.


  1. I've realised that looking after oneself is essential for good health, but for some reason it's always seen as selfish.

    1. It's true, Joey, I don't know how it became such a negative thing.

  2. I hear you. As a childless woman who has retired from paid employment I get those accusative questions too. And tell them I spend my days admiring the fluff in my navel.
    And hooray for kicking the selfish label to the curb and looking after yourself.

    1. Child, when a man does it in your country, is he seen as selfish? Not here. He's not seen that way, in fact, women are trained to take care of him.

    2. Of course HE is not selfish. Sigh.

  3. It's no good deciding to live to 100 years old, if you're going to be ill and unhealthy for the last 50 years of that. Looking after your health is the best thing you can do!

    1. Kim, yes, I want to be a hopping, skipping 100 year old. I have friends here who think that we must sacrifice ourselves and constantly take care of others.

  4. yes girl look after yaself

  5. I have asthma too. My dad used to joke about the fact I was nearly named Louise. Louise the wheeze...? :P That's my dad's humour.

    Been a rough few years over here and seems all my friends are saying the same. World's been a tough place recently. Hope you're keeping well now. Emails are good too (hint hint).


  6. Michelle, your dad's mischievous :-D

    I'm so sorry you've had a rough time these past years. Having dealt with some tough times too, I've come to the conclusion that life's a test, and we're supposed to find a way to pass this test, and use the struggle to help us in some way. (It's how I stay sane).

    I look at what's happening to the Syrians and the people in Yemen, and the Rohingya people, and I hear them speak with such a lack of bitterness, it humbles me.